Please help me make the right decission!

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Registered: 02-21-2004
Please help me make the right decission!
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Sat, 02-21-2004 - 11:03pm
I have been dating this really great guy for the passed four months. This is the best relationship I have ever been in. His job requires him to work out of town alot. I didn't realize this in the begining, because at the time he was working locally. Then he was on his Christmas vacation. It's not that he was at all dishonest about it. He told me he worked out of town. I just never realized he would be gone so often. He told me that his company had a five year local job coming up in February.I thought this would be perfect. It would give us plenty of time to really get to know each other, but now he says the job has been pushed back till May,or they may not do the job at all. I enjoy every moment that we are together. We get along extremely well, and I know that I have fallen in love with him. I can't stand it when we are apart. It just breaks my heart when he has to be gone so long. Now that I have really thought about things I have realized that if we spend the next 40 years together,we will have only spent maybe 10 years with each other. When I think of it this way. I wonder if I will be able to handle this. Please give me some great advice. I know I could use it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 7:51am
It's a package deal - his priority is this job - it is more important to him than being in town enough to spend consistent in person time with a potential significant other. Since you have seen him so rarely, I question on what you base your feelings for him on and how it is the best relationship if you rarely get to spend time with him. The other option is - if he is out of town on weekends, is it possible you could join him - I am sure he doesn't work all day and all night. does he call you when he's out of town and do you know where he is staying or do you just have a cell phone number? I do have a mild suspicion of what he is doing out of town so often.
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Registered: 02-21-2004
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 10:04am
I just wanted to answer the questions you have asked. He usually works 12hr shifts 6 to 7 days a week. I would love to be able to visit him, but so far that hasn't been possible,because of distance. He calls every night and e-mails me at least once a day.

He always lets me know where he is staying, and gives me the number.