Help me read his mind!?!?
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Help me read his mind!?!?
| Sun, 02-22-2004 - 1:01am |
I was dating this wonderful guy for 2 months, and it seems we both agreed we had the start of something good going. Then, in the span of a few days, there was a problem with his daughter and some financial issues worrying him, and suddenly he felt that he had too much else to deal with to have time to spend with me too, and decided we should stop seeing each other. Our work schedules were so incompatible at the time this happened (I was working shifts) that we exchanged a few emails on the subject, and he said that this didn't mean he didn't still want to talk to me. So I'm trying to "get over him", since I have no choice anyway, and I figured I'd just drop out of site (dates, phone, email, everything) for a month or so until things got better for him and then see what happens. But now, in the past two days, he's sent me 2 emails "to say hello", etc., which read pretty much like they always did minus the "I miss you"'s and such. Not sure what to do here-- does he want me to reply? Are we going to keep doing exactly what we were doing (a lot of email and text msgs. during the week) just minus seeing each other here and there??? Because certainly that makes no sense. Like in today's mail he asked me what I did this weekend (not in a jealous way or anything), and this was supposed to be a weekend(the first one since the change)we would see each other, so that was kind of weird. I'm not sure if in his mind he is going to give our relationship another chance once things smooth out for him, and I don't want to keep "chatting" (which means I will keep thinking about him) if I'm never going to see him again, know what I mean? Not sure what to do here. But if I stop answering him, then he'll think I DON'T care about him anymore, which is far from the truth. Help me read his mind please??? Sorry so long. Thanks.
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| Sun, 02-22-2004 - 7:47am |
The next time he emails you reply that you're happy to hear from him, hope he's doing well, and if and when he wants to get together again he can call you and you will make plans, but that things are too busy for you to have an email pen pal.
| Sun, 02-22-2004 - 7:48am |
If you want to answer his messages, answer them. I personally couldnt go from dating a man and having feeling for him, to being an email buddy. Secondly, life happens...things get crazy..financial situations occur. I would have an issue with someone who ends things because life is a bit out of control. You could be together 20 years and life could get nuts...will he dump you everytime? Its just LIFE...!
| Sun, 02-22-2004 - 10:15am |
Yes, thank you-- that's exactly my feeling about it (both things you said!) I'm not sure how he can just click a switch and go from romance to friendly e-mail mode, but it's hard for me, because I had really developed feelings for him. I also agree on the 'life happens' part! I think if anything, you can get through tough things in life better with someone who supports you... I wondered if we had been together 6 months, 8 months, a year instead of 2 mo. if he would have done it differently. I hadn't met his kids as yet, but I think if I had that may have made a difference as well since his issues mostly involved them. Sigh.... He's a good guy who just did a weird thing. Can't explain 'em. And men think WE'RE complicated!!! :0)
| Sun, 02-22-2004 - 11:36am |
I think you should just be patient. Guys are known for going to the other extreme after they realize they like you. Just be patient. If he has a daughter, chances are, his finances may not be in the right to date you seriously just yet. No need to worry if you ask me, if he is truly into you, he will come back and persue you. Just because a guy spends time away, doesn't mean he doesn't like you anymore.
