cheating

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Registered: 12-04-2003
cheating
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Sun, 02-22-2004 - 3:10pm
If I know a guy is cheating on a girl, should i let that girl know. She is not a friend, do not know her but was once involved with him, in fact still am. I am the one he is cheating with. Some of this is revenge, he hurt me very badly. I also think she should know. You will probably ask why i am still seeing him. Because stupid me is still in love with him. I know that is a problem I also have to take care of.

What should I do?
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Registered: 11-30-2003
In reply to: richmond1120
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 5:19pm
and how is telling her going to benefit you? Do you think her leaving him will "win him back"? and do you really want him full-time when you already know he's going to cheat on you again?


I can't answer your question whether or not to tell her, perhaps make one of those pro and con lists, and think of as many things to put on it on both sides to see which outweighs the other. And since you are an ex already anyway, are you sure that even if you DO tell her, she'll believe you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2003
In reply to: richmond1120
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 5:28pm
I do have proof that he is cheating on her. No, I really don't want him back. After 3 years I can finally say that.

What good would it do. Well I think she should know and I guess some of it is revenge. I in no way hate him, but I guess I think its time for his bulls**t to end.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: richmond1120
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 5:29pm
Stay out of it - if you do it out of revenge to any extent you will feel badly and the guy will break up with you - why not channel your energy into figuring out why you dislike yourself so much that you would seriously consider doing this and be intimate with a man who does not prioritize being faithful?
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Registered: 02-11-2004
In reply to: richmond1120
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 8:40pm
I think you should get even, and then tell her. Payback is a bitch.
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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: richmond1120
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 10:13pm
Well, the odd thing is...i'm in the exact same boat you are in...I too am seeing my ex while he is with someone else...and I was originally doing it out for revenge on the both of them..but mostly her because she is my cousin..email me if you want to talk... Angitia63@aol.com