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I'm so confused
| Sun, 02-22-2004 - 7:12pm |
Hey all, I am a guy but I would like the female point on view on this: I did met a girl but before her I was a major player. Then I straightened out my ways and dedicated myself only to her. The months went by and I hid my past to her, except for those I slept with. The relationship had to become long distance, and that's when I told her I still loved her but it would be OK for me if she saw someone else. She did, and she even told me a few things she did on him. I thought it wasn't OK, and I said I didn't love her anymore. Now she is digging through my past, looking for all those things I didn't say to her back then, and calling me a womanizer and a liar. I told her I didn't really lie to her because that belonged to the past, and that's it. She replies, "well I was honest from the start, unlike you". I really need to learn my lessons from this, so hope you can help me get them.

No offense, Tweety, but I think you'll feel differently when you're a little older than 19!
As for the reformed "player", I hope you remember that you said it was okay to date other people. If you wanted to be exclusive, you have to make that clear. (ALthough I totally don't agree with her giving you the gory details. :) ) Maybe it is time to move on, and use all the wisdom you have picked up this time around. :) Good Luck!
Suzanne
I think that everyone has a past, wether they wanna share it or not is their choice. Personally i like to know about my guys past...not details or anything, and nothing sexual. Just the basics like who his friends where and things he may have done blah blah but i dont much wanna here about his relationships. And if i did want to know i would just ask. But this gurl of yours has no right to be mad really b/c why would you have told her? Unless she would have asked you woulda had no reason to tell her. I dunno if this helped at all haha but maybe it did.
peace