boyfriend, ex-wife,2kids,long dist.

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Registered: 02-23-2004
boyfriend, ex-wife,2kids,long dist.
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Mon, 02-23-2004 - 12:48am
I have a highschool boyfriend whom contacted me after his failed marriage and 2 kids about 3 years ago. He lives 4 hours away. we talked for 3 years(I had a boyfriend at the time) then 6 months ago proceeded to have a long distance relationship. About 3 weeks ago, I was going to move to where he lives... but the idea of living together after skipping the "dating" part, an ex-wife whom wants him back and lives a stone's throw away, and 2 kids... I was like "whoah"....

I am so damn confused... do I continue trying to make it work? or are there too many uncontrollable issues that have made me need some space? What does that mean????
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Registered: 11-30-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 10:16am
If you're questioning whether or not to do it, then don't. Go when you're positively sure it's the right thing to do.
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 12:40pm
I agree with vanillatangerine - excellent advice!

I think that your intuition is telling you that something is not right. Maybe it's that you have doubts about him. Maybe it's that you don't want to live together (I wouldn't move in w/someone unless I was engaged). Maybe it's that you like your job and your home and don't want to leave. Maybe it's something else. But something is holding you back, and I think you would be wise to wait until you know for sure what you want to do.


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Registered: 02-23-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 2:20am
Thanks for all your help everyone... I guess it is just nice to have people confirm what you already are feeling in your gut... good luck to everyone...