I've never dated - help
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| Mon, 02-23-2004 - 8:57am |
I'm not good at this dating thing. When I was in middle school/early high school I had boyfriends but by the time I got my drivers license I had secured myself as the 'friend'. It was a very comfortable spot for me because I got the attention without getting hurt. Now in my mid twenties, I'm lonely and want a relationship. I started using an online dating site to find people (because I relocated after graduation and all my friends are in relationships and I'm just uncomfortable meeting people in bars and clubs). Last week I went on a date with a guy who seems great. He suggested we go out again this week and we've chatted twice since. Sounds good, right? I'm just confused, all my adult interactions with guys has either been as friends or short term flings. I'm not sure how to 'date'. I'm trying not to get too clingy or turn this into a fling or worse turn him into 'just a friend'. How do I date?

As for not having flings . . . just keep things slow physically in the beginning. Personally I will not be intimate with a man until we are exclusive, and that usually doesn't happen until we've been dating for at least a couple of months. Very few guys who are just looking for a fling will stick around for that long!
Other than that, just go out and be safe and have fun! :)