I don't know what to do?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
I don't know what to do?
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Mon, 02-23-2004 - 5:35pm
All I need is some input or maybe someone has a similar to mine story.

I'm in love with a guy who doesn't have romantic feelings for me. He didn't say that but I know that he is not ready/ willing/ to have relationships with me. He is attracted to me and gives me a lot of attention but I don't want to have intimate relationships without a commintment. We kept being friends but made out few times. I realized that I'm hurting myself by keeping seeing him.

Now I'm crying 24/7 but there is no way I let myself see him, even as a friend. I have friends, I have my work, I go out...but he is in my mind all the time. Like a ghost...I don't know what to do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 5:57pm

You've definitely made the right decision to cut off contact.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 7:35pm
Thanks. I read that post and I think it might be very halpfull.

So far it would be a lot easier if this guy were an a**hole..lol... but he is a good guy. He never insisted on sex . He's just been very attentive to me and we made out only because I let it happened. I know that wasn't a bright decision i could've made but I WANTED him. No regrets so far.

The only thing I cry about that he hasn't romanting feelings for me. We have a lot in common, we have the greatest time together, we can stay in silence for an hour and don't feel uncomfortable....but he is not in love :(((