from good friends-couple-friends???

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Registered: 09-25-2003
from good friends-couple-friends???
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 3:57am
he was a rather good friend of mine from university. we kept in contact after uni because i travelled to his home country for work a couple of times a year. we would often meet up, go out for drinks..get drunk. Nothing had ever happened..of course, my then boyfriend was also his best friend and flatmate in college.

i relocated to his home country. split up with my boyfriend (best friend/flatmate in college) after being together for 3+ years. They never kept in contact all through these years..the only info they knew about each othere were all through me.

Anyhow, 4 months after the split and 2 mths of me being in the new country..i started going out with this friend of mine. He has been single for about a year after his last girlfriend totally broke his heart.

Anyway, 1.5 months later, we've gone our separate ways. Him citing the reason that he wasn't ready to be attached after all...and loves his single lifestyle too much. As for me, i wanted what was best for us...becos i was still carrying the ghosts of my ex-relationship - issues with trust as my ex had cheated on me and got caught. I was not ready to trust anyone though he hasn't done anything to make me distrust him at all.

I really like the guy...and don't want it to affect our friendship becos i do like hanging out with him a lot. He's offered friendship by suggesting that we go for drinks before i leave the country for a few weeks.

I want the friendship..but yet i still fancy him a lot. Should i leave it alone for a while or just meet him for drinks? or what else?

is it ever possible to be friends again after all these? we've known each other for 5 years..we were friends first..and i want the friendship back.

Is going for drinks an offer of his friendship again?