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to call or not to call??
| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 8:12pm |
Hi all,
About two weeks ago I met a guy. We hit it off real well, talked everyday, saw eachother every couple of days. Most of the time it was him calling me up. See the thing is, I have this thing with calling guys...I hate doing it....i always feel like I am bothering them or something...I dont know why i think this, it's not like I feel bothered when he calls me! I mean i have dated guys for months and still had the absolute worst anxiety about calling them up.
Well anyways, I think that almost most of my relationships have ended because of this thing with calling that I have. I think that the guy starts to think that I am not interested ,which is not true at all, so then he just gives up.
I honestly think that this is one relationship that I dont want to end like this, because I am very interested. So last night I did call him since I havent heard from him since friday, no answer so i left a message. He still has yet to call back. Does anybody have suggestions on what i should do? Do I call again, or just wait for a call back?? Please help, I honestly feel my heart breaking again!! Thank you!
~Jess
About two weeks ago I met a guy. We hit it off real well, talked everyday, saw eachother every couple of days. Most of the time it was him calling me up. See the thing is, I have this thing with calling guys...I hate doing it....i always feel like I am bothering them or something...I dont know why i think this, it's not like I feel bothered when he calls me! I mean i have dated guys for months and still had the absolute worst anxiety about calling them up.
Well anyways, I think that almost most of my relationships have ended because of this thing with calling that I have. I think that the guy starts to think that I am not interested ,which is not true at all, so then he just gives up.
I honestly think that this is one relationship that I dont want to end like this, because I am very interested. So last night I did call him since I havent heard from him since friday, no answer so i left a message. He still has yet to call back. Does anybody have suggestions on what i should do? Do I call again, or just wait for a call back?? Please help, I honestly feel my heart breaking again!! Thank you!
~Jess

When the guy I am seeing doesn't call, I sometimes call once to let him know I am interested in talking, and usually leave a casual message, like "just trying to catch you, talk to you later." I never call a second time and as soon as I convince myself that it's over, he's dumping me, doesn't want to talk to me again, etc., I get a call back. It happens every time. I have not figured out how not to freak when more than 24 hours lapses between contact (seeing him, phone call, IM) but I never let HIM know I do that.
Seeming desperate never helps.
Jennie