Why is there no physical contact?!

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Why is there no physical contact?!
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 10:42pm
Hi - I've been on about 6 or 7 dates with this guy, including Valentine's Day (which is also my birthday) and each time we've had fun and there was heaps to talk about. However, at no time has there been any physical contact between us. I was happy for there to be no goodbye kiss after the first date, but after the 6th!! He is fairly shy, which could be an explanation. I'm pretty sure he's interested, because he is always the one to ask when can he see me again. I've considered kissing him first, but as he's at least 1ft taller than me, it would be easier said than done. Help me please! :)
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 10:58pm
I was married to a nice guy for 9 years, dated for several years before that and there was always very little physical contact. It took me all that time to figure out that he just was not interested in my physically. He wanted to be married to me, but did not want to be intimate with me. We had sex, but it was infrequent and he would not let me be naked. I went along with this for who knows was reasons. Some guys are like that, maybe they are gay and don't want to admit it, maybe they just can't be intimate period. So if you want passion and physical intimacy in your life, I'd say this is not your guy.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 11:12pm
Three years ago I dated a guy and I was glad that he didn't try to have any phisical contact with me at the begining. On our fourth date we kissed. Months passed by and we are still kissing (only). We become exclusive and still no sex. One day he asked me to stay over night at his place and guess what...NO SEX....other day....no sex...we broke up because, as he said, he was not ready for relationships. After a year I found out he was a GAY. Ironically, now we are best friends.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 11:17pm
Several people have suggested that by soon-to-be-ex is actually gay and just hasn't come to terms yet. I say I don't care, I'm just glad to be out of that relationship and in a dating relationship that has touching, cuddling and great sex! I can't believe I lived without that for so long. I was nuts!

As for as my ex, time will tell if he is gay, and I assume eventually I will find out if that is the case. Funny though, another problem we had is him always wanting me to be the head of the household, in charge, making the most money, etc. Maybe he can find a guy willing to do that for him :)

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:46am
Hi All - Something I forgot to mention before was that I met this guy through an internet dating site here in Australia. He registered because he's just been transferred back here after a couple of years up north and was looking for someone to date.

Cheers

MissCliff

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 1:00am
Well, what we know for sure it'is not very usual situation....Are you sure he is attracted to you? Maybe he likes going out with you but don't want to be intimate ( even kissing). Or he is a guy but don't want to face it - like my friend, who was trying to date me just to prove (himself)he was straight untill it became impossible. Take a closer look at him. Watch him.