Age criterion

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Registered: 10-26-2003
Age criterion
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 12:53am
I started corresponding with a guy through one of the dating service. We are both 27 adn have a lot in common including sence of humor wich is important for me. Anyway, I read his profile very carefully but I never took a look at the your-match-creteria part. I simply forgot about that kind of information. Today I looked at it and found that his match's age criterion was 18-25. For me it was a bad sign...What kind of relationships does he want if he's willing to meet such young girls. Even I'm out of his criteria..lol What do you guys think? Whould it alarm you?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: need76
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 7:11am
A number of men put broad ranges on age - meet him ASAP because at this point you have no idea if what you have in common - or what you think you do - will work in person - people can send very witty emails and engage in witty email banter and it is totally different in person - same with phone conversations. I did something very unusual and corresponded by phone - probably about 6-10 conversations - over a three month period - I never ever do that - usually one or two emails, one phone convo and then we meet - we got along great on the phone - loved the sound of his voice, and what he had to say - I knew we probably had incompatible life goals but since he was the one who delayed meeting, I didn't feel badly about taking up his time to meet him - well when we met he was much heavier than his photo and even though weight isn't always an issue i did not find him attractive - his face was much heavier than in the picture - and his witty banter, combined with his in person body language - which was sort of insecure, etc - wasn't appealing to me - it's all about the in person meeting so my best advice is meet ASAP.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: need76
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 8:19am
When I used to look at ads on match.com I noticed that the men tend to be looking for younger women. So all these guy who were my age (and even some who were a few years older) seemed to think I was too old for them. I suspect these guys are just so unrealistic about what kind of woman they can get that they must resort to placing ads on internet dating sites. So many of them who were looking for younger women requested few other qualities in the woman except "slender". So basically they are looking for only the most superficial qualities in a woman. Instead of placing ads they should go to Hooters and ask the waitresses out on dates! How rigidly a man holds onto his criteria depends on the man and how desperate he is for a girlfriend. Iri
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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: need76
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 8:33am
A lot of guys, even in MY age range (30-40), put that they are looking for women as young as 18. I do take that into consideration, b/c I think that could be an indication that a guy is not looking for something serious but just a little "fun," if you know what I mean. ;) But I don't autmatically rule guys out based on that. If they seem mature and I am interested, I will still meet them.

I agree with Deena's advice to meet as soon as possible. Good luck! :)


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Registered: 11-30-2003
In reply to: need76
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 9:01am
Just wanted to mention that I think 18-25 is the default age criteria for most dating sites, so if he never changed it, it would say that. Is the rest of his profile "detailed"? or did he leave most everything blank (as a lot of men do)?
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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: need76
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 1:54pm
I agreee


Edited 2/25/2004 1:57:29 PM ET by two_way
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Registered: 10-26-2003
In reply to: need76
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 2:42pm
His profile is quite ditailed. Everything seems fine. It's just all men I met on-line are willing to meet someone from age 25 and up...For crying out loud I'm 2 years older then his ideal match..lol....