The Rules? Love Tactics? Mars/Venus?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2002
The Rules? Love Tactics? Mars/Venus?
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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 9:00pm
I have read quite a few books on dating and each one (ok almost) professes that if you follow "the program" you will find love.

I am so confused. Do I call? Am I not allowed to call? Do I make eye contact? Do I avoid their gaze? Do I pay? Do I not pay? Do I play hard to get? Do I ask him out??

Is anyone else confused by all these books and love gurus??

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-25-2004 - 10:03pm
Ever since I was 15 or 16 I learned from my mother and sister not to pursue or call boys/men before we were a steady "couple" - I also learned to do my best not to depend on a man for my happiness -wasn't always easy - and to have a busy fun life aside from what man might be around. I have asked men out - am not afraid to pursue anything or anyone - it is why I have a successful career- but I also know that I never gave up the opportunity for a healthy lasting relationship by not pursuing a man in the beginning - what I got in return is a reasonably to very healthy attitude about men - I enjoy their company both platonically and otherwise and for the most part have been treated with respect and like a lady and after 21 years plus of dating that's pretty darn successful, i think.