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Should I ask?
| Thu, 02-26-2004 - 12:48am |
A passive guy who I have known for 7 months said he owed me a dinner for helping him with a business connection. I was attracted to him when we first met but remained casual friends because we both just got out of a relationship and was not ready for a new relationship at that time. He's also really consumed with work plus his own side start-up business. I have sensed that he might have some interest in me or it could be he is just flattered by my interest. We've been in contact with one another all this time every now and then but mostly through e-mail. And we have hung out a few times since we met.
Lately, we have had less contact since he had mentioned the dinner thing. So,tired of waiting, I sent him an email and told him to call me if he wanted to hang out and catch up on things (this time I was brave and direct instead of beating around the bush like some people on this board have pointed out to me). He actually called me three days later and asked me to a movie. I accepted but instead of the movie, he took me out to dinner (sort of indirectly said that it was the dinner he owed me). The movie showing was too late for him. We had a nice friendly dinner.
Lately, we have had less contact since he had mentioned the dinner thing. So,tired of waiting, I sent him an email and told him to call me if he wanted to hang out and catch up on things (this time I was brave and direct instead of beating around the bush like some people on this board have pointed out to me). He actually called me three days later and asked me to a movie. I accepted but instead of the movie, he took me out to dinner (sort of indirectly said that it was the dinner he owed me). The movie showing was too late for him. We had a nice friendly dinner.
I called him three days later to thank him for dinner and mentioned the movie. Instead of talking to him live, I got his voicemail and left him a message. I played the down movie thing by saying none of my friends wanted to see it and if he wanted to see it to give me a call. He hasn't called back. That was three days ago. I have tickets to an event I think he might be interested in and would like to ask him to join me. Should I call and ask him since he hasn't called back? The event is next Thursday and I don't want to wait for the last minute to ask him. Thanks for your thoughts.

I would not.
You'll meet your match, but let this one slide if you don't hear from him.