F***Buddy question

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Registered: 10-17-2003
F***Buddy question
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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 5:58pm


Ok...I have never done this type of thing before, so I was wondering about this certain question. When you are just sleeping with someone and you know that's all you want out of the relationship, what is the general consensus on having other sexual partners at the same time? I know I won't be having sex with anyone else as I'm not in another relationship, but the man the man I am interested in has been with other people in the not so distant past(just sexually). I would just like to know if it is too much too ask for him to stop sleeping with other people- not for emotional reasons, but health reasons. Thanks in advance for your input!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:01pm
Of course you can ask and I would never sleep with someone who was sleeping with others - but whether it is too much to ask - of course not - it's not like you're asking him to have any feelings for or commitment towards you - and if you are not worth it to him to be sexually monogamous with why would you let him inside your body (why you would do that without any emotional investment or commitment is also beyond me but ok)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 6:27pm

You have every right to ask for what you need and/or want from a r/ship - no matter what kind of r/ship that may be. He has the right to decline tho. I have only had experience with Friends With Benefits type arrangements...where I actually like the person and AM emotionally invested...just not commiting to a long term r/ship. In those situations, we both agreed not to sleep with anyone else and it was OVER the minute we even decided to date anyone. Because if we were looking for a real r/ship - which dating implies - we would be dating each other or not wasting our time that could be better spent looking for that. I don't know about your situation...it seems like he wouldn't be willing to do that. And if he isn't, you have to ask yourself if its worth the risk? I'm sure you can find a guy who is AT LEAST willing to only sleep with you...


Good luck, Go.