ADHD and dating

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Registered: 10-12-2003
ADHD and dating
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Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:42am
I am 23 and a senior in college, and presently I am seeing a guy that goes to the same college that I go to. We both have ADHD. This is both of our first real adult relationship. We both don't know how to act around eachother, because our interpersonal skills are lacking. He is letting me call all the shots. Any sugesstions on what am supposed to do and how to act? Help!
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: rachred98
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 12:43pm
If you are having trouble knowing how to act, it could just be that the two of you are not a good match for each other. If he is letting you call all the shots, and that is what you want, fine. But if he wants someone to call the shots, and everything else being equal you'd rather have him call the shots, or some of the shots... then that is a sign of incompatability.

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Registered: 07-28-2003
In reply to: rachred98
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 1:03pm
hi,

i wouldn't underestimate your social capabilities. just because you have ADHD doesn't mean that you're not naturally able to have successful relationships. if you're having trouble 'connecting' or really focusing on what's going on...maybe it's just because there isn't enough chemistry. i too have been diagnosed with ADD, and when i really am into someone it doesn't matter. if the chemistry isn't there -- the ADD really kicks in!!

best of luck,

ijonah