Is he playing games?
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| Fri, 02-27-2004 - 11:35am |
here is my story, I have been working at my current job (which is not related to my field of work) for about 6 months now and over the past 4 months, I met a man at work who seemed ineterested in me (unless I'm blind and totally out of touch with reality) at least I thought that he was. He used to come to talk to me everyday after work, invited me for lunch, wanted to know every little detail about my life. He even asked me for a date last month, but unfortunately that day, I already had something else planned.
I also heard by several collegues at work that he is very single (not dating anyone). He is 43 y/o I'm 31. But 2 days ago, I told him that I had an interview for an engineering job (my field of work) at another company, yesterday morning. So on the spot he wished me good luck and seemed happy for me.
As soon as I was done with the interview, I got to work yesterday afternoon. I noticed a change in him. He was taking his lunch break in the cafeteria which is just beside the employees locker room. As soon as I entered he saw me and gave me the coldest look. He didn't even aknowledge the big smile that I gave him. After I put my coat in the locker room and walked back near the door where he was sitting, he was rubbing the back of another woman very affectionately while looking at me straght in the eyes. (he is affectionate with everyone at work).
Also later during the day, he sent me an email to ask how my interview went. I told him that it went very well. So out of the blue, during the conversation, he tells me that he has a girlfriend who loves him to death....? Something that he never mentioned before.
I started to develop feelings for this man, but I'm wondering, was he playing games all along...?
All advices will be welcomed, thanks for reading me.
Edited 2/27/2004 2:38:24 PM ET by abiyes

But good luck with the JOB! Don't let this guys weird and unexplainable behavior overshadow a possibly very positive thing.
In any case, his behavior does seems strange, especially for someone 41, so this shold tell you that he's not someone worth worrying about. If you developed "feelings" for him based on your assumptions, I'd suggest you try and forget him now based on the inconsistent and confusing signals he's giving you.
Don't allow him to engage you in this nonsense any more. I would suggest ignoring him and his emails in the future. If he approaches you, be polite and then break off the contact.
Edited 2/27/2004 12:33:30 PM ET by krn2004
a Great week-end to both of you! ;-)
My only thought is that he wanted to have a little fun but didn't want to have a little fun for fear of being caught.
At any rate, move on and forget the smut. You're better than him.
He was fun and games type of man. I've been through this too. Just move on and hold your head high because you're better than that.