Is he a player or really interrested?!
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| Fri, 02-27-2004 - 6:29pm |
I started casualy dating this guy about a month and a half ago. We get along GREAT and from the way we act together, even in front of his friends, you'd probably say we're gf/bf. There's just one problem...we're not. He's still dating this other woman he's been seeing as well. He told me when we first started dating that he's taking her to our town's formal banquet thing...and made it clear that we probably won't be able to talk much to each other there because she will keep him at arm's length....hello?! Then he goes and makes a big deal about me taking my guy friend as a date!
This guy is really confusing...he calls me nearly everyday, we go out nearly every weekend, and when I checked his cell phone I saw he'd only talked to her once in about a week. Today he texted my cell phone and asked if I loved him...I just countered with the same question (hey! Why put my feelings on the line?!) Needless to say he wouldn't tell me because I wouldn't tell him....I felt like I was in middle school again.
Either he's being REALLY sneaky about dating her or he's just trying to make me jealous. I really would like to date this guy exclusively...but I'm afraid he'll freak about losing his "grazing rights." What should I do? How should I talk to him?!

You should not be afraid about freaking him out about his grazing rights. After all, if he does freak out, what really have you lost? A guy that is not interested in dating you exclusively. Well, that's not much of a loss, considering that that is what you are interested in.
He's one of those guys that women, including myself, swoon over. The smooth talking, good looking, lady's man kind of guy. Yeah you know the type. The type that makes you feel like you're the only woman in the world...when in fact you're not.
Maybe that's not the type of guy that's good for me...I keep telling myself I'll just "have fun" with him and nobody will get hurt, when indeed I know I probably would. The thing about asking if I loved him really jolted something in me...usually guys are so petrified of the "L" word...that's why I found it so odd that he would even ask, that being the basis of my problem.
You do realize he's just asking to massage his ego, right?