does he like me?

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Registered: 02-28-2004
does he like me?
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 4:44pm
I have had a crush on my brothers friend for about five years. When we were in high school we started talking a lot and my brother told me that he liked me. We were both a bit shy and eventually my best friend (a huge flirt) asked him out and he said yes. He left for the Air Force and has dated a couple girls since my friend (who cheated on him!) He just returned from his four years and has a girlfriend now who still has two years left in. They live about 1000 miles apart now. Anyway, now that he is home I have been seeing him a lot more and all of those old feelings are rushing back. He seems to be flirting with me a lot, but we are still both a little shy. Everyone (my brother, parents...)think he likes me. He has chosen to tell only me that he thinks his relationship wiht his current girlfriend is on its way out. We talk when we both go out with my brother, but not much other than that (he does still have a girlfriend, and he is a loyal guy). Do you think that he likes me? Or am I just wasting my time and should wait to see if they ever break up? He only says negative things about her, but on the phone he tells her he loves her. I am so lost. Please give advice!
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 02-28-2004 - 7:16pm

Hello travelqueen007, welcome to the board!


"Do you think that he likes me? Or am I just wasting my time and should wait to see if they ever break up? He only says negative things about her, but on the phone he tells her he loves her. I am so lost." - well... let's see if we can help you find the way...


"Do you think that he likes me?" - I'm sure he does since he talks to you and shares his thoughts and feelings with you - but, does he like you in the same way that you like him? That I don't know.


"...am I just wasting my time and should wait to see if they ever break up?" - My personal feeling is that one should get out of one thing before they get into another - it is less complicated that way. The fact that he is in a relationship (albeit a long distance one) means that he is not free to enter into a relationship with you until his current relationship has ended.


"He only says negative things about her, but on the phone he tells her he loves her." - Now, this one hit me and should have hit you as well... the fact is, he is telling one of you the truth, but, which one? This strikes me as a little game... he has you both on the line at the same time, both of you wishing and hoping... which one will it be? Right now he has you both and that isn't fair to either you or her. Now, I don't know about you but I wouldn't invest my time in someone who plays both ends against the middle...


You feel lost? It's no wonder... You can't possibly know where you are going with him because he hasn't decided which direction he is going. I would suggest that you be his friend, if you want, but keep your emotions within yourself until he has decided to free himself from his relationship. Otherwise, you are heading for a heartbreak.


tg