what to do?

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Registered: 02-28-2004
what to do?
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 8:01pm
Hey all,

Well here's the thing....been seeing this guy for about 4 weeks now, i know not very long. First few weeks we talked everyday, went out a lot and all that fun stuff. Last week or so things have slowed down a bit, just we have both been really busy. I am in med school and really do not have a lot of spare time, he is in the military. Well, he has called a few times this week being kinda distant, but he asks me to come over and see him, and I just havent been able to. Believe me I would LOVE to go see him, but it was just impossible with what I had going on with school. Well he loves to lay in the guilt trip really heavy too, so I have felt kinda guilty that I havent been able to see him all that much lately. Well I talked to him on thursday, asked him what he was doing this weekend, he told me that he was working nights all weekend so he probably wouldnt be able to go out...nights for him is like 4pm-12am on base. I am fine with that cause you hafta do what ya hafta do.

So I call him today to talk to him before he goes to work and he asks me what I did last night, then I asked him what he did, expecting him to tell me what he did at work. Well, he tells me that he went out and drank and had all this fun and stuff. At this point I am so pissed....why wouldnt he call me??? We havent seen each other all week, he's laying a guilt trip on me all week about not being able to go out, then the one night he knows that I could go out he doesnt even call!! What is this all about?

Then to make matters worse he is kinda short with me on the phone and asks me to call him later tonight cause he will be able to talk at work. I want to call and I dont because I am kinda hurt that he didnt call me last night. Also, I know that he is gonna ask me to come over tonight when he gets off. Seriously does he consider me just a booty call or what?? Please help....any advice....do i call him tonight, do i confront him....what to do? Thanks.

~Jaymee
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jayjay045
Sun, 02-29-2004 - 7:53am
Jaymee...

Is this guy worth more to you than the medical school and other commitments you've made to yourself?

He sounds a little selfish to me...but then...you sound a little selfish too!

If you're not available for someone, it's unlikely a male social butterfly is gonna stay home and plunk his nose in a book, at the computer, or with a television rerun of "FRIENDS!"

What the two of you need to do is set up a mutual time when you can be together? If that's not possible...then a consistant relationship isn't either.

Forgoing your dreams to satisfy his desires isn't fair. Nor is it fair for him to be exclusive to you if you're busy with other things.

Pianoguy