desperate for help!!!

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Registered: 11-29-2003
desperate for help!!!
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 11:25pm
I'm starting to fall for this guy. He seems perfect for my personality type. The only thing getting in the way is he's with another girl, this girl happens to be one of my friends. Not exactly close friends, but friends...shes also a work associate. I've known this guy for a while, our fathers worked together for years. I've been thinking about him for days and waiting to be able to talk to him. It seems like neither of them are overly happy with the relationship, but happy enough to keep it going. They aren't even close to breaking up, although I'm falling for him. Another thing is, maybe I only like him because I know I can't have him. But I would love to find out... Can someone point me in the right direction? Should I give him space...tell him how I feel??


Edited 2/28/2004 11:40:12 PM ET by megz32xo
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 11:45pm
I would wait for him to ask you out on a proper date if and when he breaks up with the other woman.
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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 12:21am
Point you in the right direction? No, dont share your feelings with him. Yes, give him space and while you are at it, you may want to reflect upon what type of friend you are.
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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 11:50am
I know what kind of a friend I am, I'm always there for all of my friends. This friend in particular is nothing like that, shes self centered and egotistical, but I still remain there for her. Its not like we're that close either. This guy I've known since I was in Middle School, or younger.
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Registered: 01-13-2004
Sun, 02-29-2004 - 12:06pm
This man is unavailable. He's involved with someone else which puts you at a disadvantage from the get go should you tell him how you feel. If he wanted to be with you he would pursue you, not her. It may not be what you want to hear but if he's seeing her exclusively, I would consider him off limits. Friends, yes. Anything more at this point, no.
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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 12:21pm


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Sun, 02-29-2004 - 12:22pm
If he's involved with someone else, I would recommend you avoid getting involved with him. Even if he's interested, it will lead to a situation with a lot of pain and trouble for all three of you. Better to let him do whatever it is he is going to do with her until it is finished. Then, if he's interested in you, he'll be available in way that will make possible a completely different encounter.