do you call this commitment?
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do you call this commitment?
| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 12:45pm |
My boyfriend and I have been commited for 18 months. We have a strong relationship. We have spoken about marriage and the future, we take care of each other, speak kindly, put us first, pray for each other. love each other and are there for each other. we are in late 30's. last friday we had an an upset. My feelings hurt by something he said. (unintentional) had no time to discuss as had to go to bed early and business trip till sunday. by sunday I had 2 days to simmer. I got to his place before his return and had some wine on empty stomach. (not like me) when he got home I was pretty uninhibited. He didnt like my attitide as we always fight in gentle ways and wouldnt listen to me. this made me feel angrier and I said something bad. Out of character. I told him he didn't give a ---- about me! It was the alcohol. I am not used to it. Now, he is mad and talking about breaking up. After the strong foundation we have build I cannot believe it. He was the one who was always so afraid of losing me. He said I turned a beautiful relationship into trailer trash in one night. ive apologized. says he forgives me, wants to see me and see how we feel. says he doesnt feel the same. once he sees me he will forgive, but i dont want to be with someone who will end a possible life long commitment over a bad melt down that im really sorry for and will never do again. He always viewed me as a mature single mom but said i reminded him of someone that night because I seemed unstable. I dont know what to do? see him Saturday? Or back off at the risk of him remembering me like i was on sunday? Please help.

I feel that you 2 just were blowing off steam and he should be commited to you no matter what and if hes not then it shows u how immature he is for not being more forgiving and patient with you - you already aplogized to him many times I guess the best bet now is to keep the communication open and go from there HUGS
That's a lot of pressure he's putting on you. There is more going on here than one four letter word. Nobody is perfect all the time - not even him.