should I remain engaged?
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| Sat, 03-20-2004 - 1:38am |
About 9 months before he proposed, I actually proposed and was turned down. I tried to leave but he talked me into staying.
Six months before he proposed I tried to break up again. I found out he'd actually proposed to 2 ex girlfriends after only having been with them less than 6 months, and after two years, nothing between us.
But he convinced me to stay despite huge doubts I had, and then for my 23rd birthday he proposed. It was kind of half assed and surprised me, and I said yes before I really thought.
Immediatly I had doubts, I'm young and I think I need to be alone longer. But my friends told me to wait it out, and now I'm about 60% sure I want to be with him.
We're living together now and it's tough. I found out he whines and is surly, and he's revealed some disgusting habits I knew nothing of before.
Is that what makes me wonder if I should leave? Or are these doubts normal? Or, should I have listened to these doubts in my head all along?
Thank you for any help!
Nora

You said "Immediatly I had doubts, I'm young and I think I need to be alone longer. But my friends told me to wait it out, and now I'm about 60% sure I want to be with him."
Don't let your friends run your life. You obviously want to be on your own, so do it.