Help? What should I do?
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Help? What should I do?
| Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:03am |
My bf and I have being dated since last Aug. He told me he was serious and he asked be to be his gf officially. We were good together and he is helpful and consider. However, since this Feb. He became unconsidered and he traveled with single friend to Thailand for 3 weeks and didn’t call. We had an argument before he left. After he got back, he still wants to be together. However, he seems not have passion at all and rude sometimes. And he said “it has to be natural” all the time. (Talking about kiss and hug). He doesn’t kiss me any more. Past Sunday morning, I pointed out that he never made bed since he stay at my place. He feels offended. We got in the augment. Then he said we broke up. We have this before twice because of small things. He said our personality is not compatible. He struggled about 5 months. I asked him why he didn’t point out that before. Then he said maybe 2-3 months ago. Since this year, he always stays at my place during the weekend. I try to spend time separately one day to break whole weekend together, but he got mad about this. Now we stay all most everyday together during the weekend, even I didn’t feel that way sometimes. I still let him stayed.
Now he is very cold and wants to break up. I am very frustrated and upset now. Why can we work things out? Should I just keep quite about making the bed? I think communication is important. I feel bad I didn’t pick up the prop rite words, but I just express my idea. Nothing to assault him. He got really mad and he never says sorry about making bed. Why he is doing this? What’s in his mind? Does he picking things on me means he was trying to break up? Why does he always say”it has to be natural” What should I do? I feel really frustrated. I like him, but he really wants to break up.

He sounds very confused. On the one hand, he says you're incompatible and that you 2 should break up, but yet he wants to spend every night with you??? Doesn't this guy have a place of his own? You don't need anyone who says hurtful things to you and then doesn't even have the guts to follow his own advice.
Get a grip on yourself, hon. Both of you need to figure out what you want and what you NEED, and it doesn't sound like you need each other. Put an end to this rollercoaster relationship.
What should I do? I am not daring to initiate to “get back” topic. It might to go nowhere. I might have to see him because of other stuff this Wednesday. What should I do?
What is he thinking now?