FOR MEN ONLY!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
FOR MEN ONLY!
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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 12:42pm
Why is it that some men expect us women to not compare them to previous boyfriends yet they want to lump all women in one category?

Just wondering.....

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Registered: 11-18-2003
In reply to: dottied1957
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 1:37pm
ummm....i think what you said was correct...except that you have it reversed!

hint..take a look on the board at how alot, not all, women on here rag on us men saying we're shallow, insensitive, game playing, immature, etc, etc, etc, and make all generalized statements about us?

bottom line is this. men AND women both, aren't always truthful, forthright, and honest when it comes to dating and love.

it's not a gender based novelty.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: dottied1957
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 2:27pm
I agree and I as a woman do my best not to lump guys even though I have had my share of the hurts and pain. I do my best to look at each guy for what he is. I do not share the "clucking in the hen house though".(those women who rag on guys). Just wanted feedback from guys for a change. I hear enough ragging as it is directly and indirectly from women.

Thanks!

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Registered: 01-06-2004
In reply to: dottied1957
Mon, 03-22-2004 - 2:40pm
Yes, This is NOT a gender based question if you consider it in a few ways. Past relationships are just that-past. For whatever reasons they were unsuccessful and I think we all try to figure why they didn't work. If you consider this then you probably will come to conclusion that all those qualities that made it not work are the things we might look oout for in potential future relationships. To compare in the "locker room" is a bunch of crap but to take all that was good but figure in that which was not just makes it possible to learn from the past. Perhaps in this light it makes sense to incur a little comparision especially if previous tendencies were towards unhealthy relationships as "we all" have been there regardless of gender. Comparision in certain terms can be a good thing for both genders as someone said if we do not learn from our own history we are really not learning at all.