Should I move or not?
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| Mon, 03-22-2004 - 12:44pm |
I'm recently divorced and in my early thirties with no children. I'm not ready yet for a serious relationship, but I have started dating again, letting anyone I go out with know that I'm not ready for a committed relationship yet.
Anyway, about six months ago, I started dating a man who lives near me. I care for him a great deal but don't really see myself ever having a long lasting relationship with him. About three months ago, while visiting my family in another area of the state (about 4 hours away), I met a man, who I really like and feel that I could have a long lasting relationship with.
Long before I met either man and shortly after my divorce, I began considering moving back to the area where all of my family lives, just so I could have the support and love of them. However, I stalled on actually making the move because I have the best job in the world where I currently live. The work is challenging and fun, the pay is good, and the people I work with are nice. However, other than my job and my one male friend in the area, I don't have much else in terms of friends and absolutely no family.
My big debate now is where should I put my concentration: work/career or family/relationships? I do want child/children, and I'm in my early thirties, so I'm starting to feel the pressure to make that the more important area of my life. Should I look for a job in the area where my family/male friend live or stay put? I've tried making a list of positive/negatives of each, and it is not providing me any clarity.
Thanks!

Aside from the lack of friends there currently (which can be changed), do you LIKE where you live?
-Goose