Confusing EX Boyfriend
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Confusing EX Boyfriend
| Tue, 03-23-2004 - 8:05pm |
Im 18, my ex bf is 24.
we were going out for almost a year he was my 1st real love.
I thought he was the "one" for me.
we were going out for almost a year he was my 1st real love.
I thought he was the "one" for me.
3 months ago he broke up with me, on istant messenger, his excuse was that he wanted to be single to be on his own. He said we're still friends, I was hurt but i went with that.
For the 1st month of not being together he was very distant and cold not all that talkitive with me, But now he's talking to/woth me just like we used to do asking me if i wanna go on drives and things like that,
then he does a full flip and goes all quiet on me 1-2 nights later
I dont know what he wants, I aint sure on how to ask him without sounding too serious with him,
I seriously need some advice on what to do/say

This is what happens, this is how it goes when you are 18 and he is 24, or whatever young age and this happens.
When I heard that story, I was 15, he was 19, and he told me he needed to get a job and build a credit rating. I didn't understand why breaking up with me had to be part of that process, but clearly he'd received direction from some "adult" figure in his life.
But you know what, looking back 28 years, I have the bit of resolution that comes with time. About 20 years ago, he married a so-called "unattractive" woman, because he thought that would be a guarantee that she wouldn't cheat on him. I don't know if she ever did, because I moved on to bigger and better things.
I know it hurts. Try to focus on yourself right now. If you are in school, make sure that your grades don't suffer because of this(I did that, and regret it). Take a class or pick up a hobby that you've always wanted to but never got around to. Meet some new people. Meet lots of new people! Things will work themselves out with time. And if you're taking care of yourself, they will work out to your benefit.
Edited 3/25/2004 3:16 am ET ET by iemiwe