update to establishing exclusivity

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Registered: 03-22-2004
update to establishing exclusivity
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Wed, 03-24-2004 - 8:08am
Well we had the talk last night and we broke up. Not the outcome I was hoping for but no more uncertainty. He said he was relieved that he had wanted to bring it up for awhile and that he didn't think I was the one. I had tried to brace myself for the worst but it seemed so inconceivable. For the life of me, I do not understand how someone can be so attentive and affectionate if they are not feeling any sparks? (not just a sexual nature) He is looking for life time committment so why waste time with me? What if I hadn't brought it up? He has been making future pans with me and getting involved in my life. Why do this if you were looking for a way out? Don't guys usually pull away when they lose interest? This one was getting more involved.

Ok...I'm done now. That would be the pain that was talking.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 8:34am
Oh no! I'm sorry it didnt' work out. I don't understand why he did that either; although I guess he just didn't know how to tell you?

At least you know now, and can move on to someone who's better for you. =)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 9:01am

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that but if you hadn't brought it up, it just would have delayed the inevitable and you would have spent more time with someone who wasn't on the same page with you.


I think he felt safe saying and doing the things he did because he thought it was clear to you from the beginning that this wasn't serious.


Sheri

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 03-24-2004 - 9:13am
Gosh hon, I'm sorry too. But like Sheri said, at least your conversation got it out of him. There's no telling how long he would have strung you along before he just up and bailed on you one day. I know his behavior is puzzling but it's better that you know the truth. You'll find someone better....

Take care.