What do you think?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2004
What do you think?
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Thu, 03-25-2004 - 7:32pm
I started dating someone a few weeks ago. We clicked the moment we met and have been seeing each other since then. However, I'm worried I might be setting myself up for a heartbreak. He's thinking about switching jobs and I think he's willing to relocate if the right job came along. He's career oriented so I think he will follow the job of his dreams. This leaves me to wonder what will happen to us. I tried to talk to him about the future, but it's a little too soon to have a serious discussion and his response to my probes have been "I don't know what will happen in the future. Let's just date and see what happens. I don't want to think too far ahead." The uncertainty of the situation leaves me wondering if I should continue to date him. I don't want to fall in love with him and then watch him leave for a job somewhere across the country. I don't think a long distance relationship will survive. His job requires him to work long hours each day and as it is, I barely see him. So, I don't think a long distance relationship will work. My question is, what do you think I should do? Do you think I should continue to date him and hope for the best?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 12:25pm
I think he has the right attitude. After just a few weeks it is too soon to worry about the future. Why don't you keep seeing him but also continue to date other guys? That way if things work out with him, great, but if not, you won't have put all your eggs in one basket.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2004
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 12:59pm
Can you hold back your feelings? Or could you see him less often? It sounds like he is being honest with you about his future intentions -- that is, he doesn't know what they are. Until you at least know if he's going to be in the same location, better not to go off the deep end. On the other hand, I once missed out on something because I thought I was going to be leaving very soon. Didn't turn out that way, but I withdrew completely until I realized my mistake. Big mistake.