Should I call him?!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Should I call him?!
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 9:01am
So my guy and I broke up last Sunday. A different guy friend came over last night (just for a Hi and How Are You chat) and asked me if I’ve called whatsisname since the breakup? Well, no, it hadn’t even occurred to me to do that, but now it has!

I know I probably shouldn’t but the thought is implanted. I told him that he could call me anytime he needed someone to talk to, but he didn't say anything about me contacting him, so I feel like he doesn't want to hear from me at all. Should I follow my instincts and keep totally quiet or what? I don't want to risk the humiliation of realising he's hating having to talk to or email me.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:39am
No, I don't think you should. After a breakup, it is usually best to have some time completely apart.

Why on earth WOULD you call him?


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Registered: 01-05-2004
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 12:07pm
If you don't even know why you want to call him, you DEFINITELY shouldn't. It's probably best to leave well enough alone.

It's hard to move on with the past still in your life. If you want for both of you to have a chance to regroup and adjust to single life with as little baggage as possible, you'll have to be disciplined enough to NOT call for awhile. Maybe someday it'll be ok to call him, but I don't think now is the time.

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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 3:15pm
I think hearing his voice would be very hard and probably just make me get weepy. I mean, what would I say? "Hi, I was just checking to see if you miss me yet or if you're so relieved you're throwing a party?"?!

I left a door open. It's up to him to use it. I'm dealing with enough emotional upset as it is.