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New guy or ex Boyfriend?
| Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:03pm |
Okay, this is probly going to be a long one. Okay I posted on here a while ago. It was all about me being with my boyfriend for 4.5 years and I heard things about him cheating on me. I wanted to be with him more then anything and I still do. When I was with him he would act all shady around me. Our relationship was one of your normal everyday boyfriend/ girlfriend relationships. We got along great with our occasional arguements.
Then one day while I was working he came in to see me at work since he was off. This was at about 11:30 a.m. He told me he was going to help someone from work "move furniture." Which I was fine with I just asked him to come home by the time I was done with work we were going to go out for a bite to eat and go shopping or something. I asked him if he was running late by chance that he can grab his cell phone and call me. So I get home from work at 3:00 that day. Its 3:30 dont hear from him, 4:00 dont hear from him, 4:30 dont hear from him. Finally, 5:00 and he comes home. I was going to do some shopping for somethings I needed and he would keep bothering me if I let him go with me cause it was shopping he wouldnt like. So I told him Id be home in approximately a half hour. Then we would go out to eat. Well he is going through his pockets and throws something in my garbage can. The garbage was empty. Nothing in it at all. I went to throw a piece of paper in my garbage and what do I find but 1 movie ticket. Dated for that day at approximately 12:30 for the movie. I asked him about it he denied it. I have the proof and he still denies it . So, we ended up arguing for while about it that night. We ended up not talking to each other after a while, and we didnt talk till the next day. Next morning I go in my garbage can to grab that "1" movie ticket out to find that it was not "1" but "2" movie tickets. That day he came in to my work for lunch. Well while he was there for lunch a florist delivered flowers to work. They said they were for ------- and I was like thats me. Everyone was looking at me in my work. I think that was a guilt trip that he sent them to me. Our whole relationship starts going wayyy down hill. It hit rock bottom. We didnt agree on anything, constantly fought. He started going out all the time, leaving me at last minute telling me he forgot to tell me someone asked him to do something. At one point we made plans a few days ahead and he comes home and tells me someone dropped by his work and asked him to do them a favor. Well he told them yes and canceled out on me when we made the plans days ahead. I looked him straight in the eye before he left and told him if I meant anything to him he would stay with me. He looked me back in the eyes and said he couldnt. Thats when I realized what I mean to him.
So we still arent together. I started talking to this guy. I met him online. But I went to meet him in person he lives by me. Well my ex and I still talk cause I bowl with him on the same team and I dont wanna screw my team over and quit cause of some kind of stupidity. Well my ex found out who this guy is that I'm talking to. He told me he knows him. Well he heard of him. He told me he works with someone who knows him and he asked this guy he works with to tell him information about him. So he went and told me the information that was told to him. I dont know if he is just saying it cause he doesnt want me to be with anyone else. Is he doing it just to despise me. Should I believe him or still continue to talk to this other guy and get to know him better like Im trying to do?
What should I do? I do still have deep feelings for my ex. Its a month now that we are broken up. We broke up for 2 months last year and got back together too? He tells me he still loves me and cares about me but has screwed me over a few times. But when he does actually stick to his plans he is really sweet to me.
I want to give this new guy Im talkin to a chance but I dont like what I heard about him. I dont know what to do. It's not that I fall for guys to easily. But, I dont want to make myself look like a fool. If this stuff is really true about him. Since the way things turned out with my ex. What should I do?
Then one day while I was working he came in to see me at work since he was off. This was at about 11:30 a.m. He told me he was going to help someone from work "move furniture." Which I was fine with I just asked him to come home by the time I was done with work we were going to go out for a bite to eat and go shopping or something. I asked him if he was running late by chance that he can grab his cell phone and call me. So I get home from work at 3:00 that day. Its 3:30 dont hear from him, 4:00 dont hear from him, 4:30 dont hear from him. Finally, 5:00 and he comes home. I was going to do some shopping for somethings I needed and he would keep bothering me if I let him go with me cause it was shopping he wouldnt like. So I told him Id be home in approximately a half hour. Then we would go out to eat. Well he is going through his pockets and throws something in my garbage can. The garbage was empty. Nothing in it at all. I went to throw a piece of paper in my garbage and what do I find but 1 movie ticket. Dated for that day at approximately 12:30 for the movie. I asked him about it he denied it. I have the proof and he still denies it . So, we ended up arguing for while about it that night. We ended up not talking to each other after a while, and we didnt talk till the next day. Next morning I go in my garbage can to grab that "1" movie ticket out to find that it was not "1" but "2" movie tickets. That day he came in to my work for lunch. Well while he was there for lunch a florist delivered flowers to work. They said they were for ------- and I was like thats me. Everyone was looking at me in my work. I think that was a guilt trip that he sent them to me. Our whole relationship starts going wayyy down hill. It hit rock bottom. We didnt agree on anything, constantly fought. He started going out all the time, leaving me at last minute telling me he forgot to tell me someone asked him to do something. At one point we made plans a few days ahead and he comes home and tells me someone dropped by his work and asked him to do them a favor. Well he told them yes and canceled out on me when we made the plans days ahead. I looked him straight in the eye before he left and told him if I meant anything to him he would stay with me. He looked me back in the eyes and said he couldnt. Thats when I realized what I mean to him.
So we still arent together. I started talking to this guy. I met him online. But I went to meet him in person he lives by me. Well my ex and I still talk cause I bowl with him on the same team and I dont wanna screw my team over and quit cause of some kind of stupidity. Well my ex found out who this guy is that I'm talking to. He told me he knows him. Well he heard of him. He told me he works with someone who knows him and he asked this guy he works with to tell him information about him. So he went and told me the information that was told to him. I dont know if he is just saying it cause he doesnt want me to be with anyone else. Is he doing it just to despise me. Should I believe him or still continue to talk to this other guy and get to know him better like Im trying to do?
What should I do? I do still have deep feelings for my ex. Its a month now that we are broken up. We broke up for 2 months last year and got back together too? He tells me he still loves me and cares about me but has screwed me over a few times. But when he does actually stick to his plans he is really sweet to me.
I want to give this new guy Im talkin to a chance but I dont like what I heard about him. I dont know what to do. It's not that I fall for guys to easily. But, I dont want to make myself look like a fool. If this stuff is really true about him. Since the way things turned out with my ex. What should I do?
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| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:40am |
Listen to me because I've been through a similar situation with my XH...they feel guilty and bad about their behavior and they'll even come back, remorseful and sorry...but they've shown you their true colors and you should not bury your head in the sand about it. They absolutely hate it when you've moved on and there's someone else in the picture. They blew it and they know it. And they want you back. For what? To do it all again. They haven't changed one iota. Don't go back, ever. Move ahead. And take care of yourself...staying with the team for the sake of the team is a lie...it's to keep an eye on him and you know it. Get rid of every single aspect of him and you'll be great.
