UPDATE: to Physical - Now What?

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Registered: 03-27-2004
UPDATE: to Physical - Now What?
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 11:05pm
He called tonday after his shift at work. We talked comfortably, just like before..wow, what a relief!..lol. Anyway, he said "I had a great time last night, and it wasn't just the physical part." I told him I did too. Said that he likes spending time with me because we seem to have so much in common and can really talk in depth about anything, share stories, etc. I didn't get a chance to say much as my 6 year old who repeats everything was in the car with me..lol. Anyway, he's invited me over to watch the college basketball game with his friend and his wife tommorrow. He said he wanted to make sure we get to see eachother a couple more times before he has to bring me ice cream!..lol. I get my tonsils out and my throat stretched (yes, it's as gruesome as it sounds..lol) in 10 days and he's been joking that he'll have to come by after work each night and feed me ice cream for a week. I am going to bring up the "state of the relationship" thing...I think I may wait until I get thru my surgery which will give us another two weeks or so..then we'll talk. I'm nervouse and fidgety about surgery and I think talking about it now will just make me moreso. If things naturally swing that way before that though, I'll take my opening.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:18am
teehee...I skimmed and read that he wanted to invite you over to watch a game wtih him and his wife!!
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 11:04am

Hey, glad to hear he called!


I wouldn't call the talk that's appropriate at this point a "state of the relationship" talk...it's more a "are we on the same page with what we want" talk.

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Registered: 03-27-2004
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 9:36am
Thanks for the advice..seems like from what I read you are always right on target! :) We've had the "in general what do you want in the future" talk. Both of us do want to get married again but we've both said we aren't in a hurry as there are no biological clocks ticking, etc. I logged on to take my online profile down as the membership is up and I was unhappy with the site any...saw that he hasn't logged on since last Wed. Spent the day and evening at his place yesterday to watch college basketball, etc. Met most of his friends who are neighbors, etc. lol..they said they have heard a lot about me in the last three weeks.

I know he's not seeing anyone else but do realize we need to have that talk also..as he does need to know that "officially" I'm not comfortable being physical with someone if we are seeing others.