MY BOYFRIEND STOLE MY THINGS!!!

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Registered: 01-14-2004
MY BOYFRIEND STOLE MY THINGS!!!
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 9:20am
I JUST REKINDLE MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY BOYFRIEND AFTER NOT TALKING TO HIM IN ABOUT A MONTH, THE ONLY REASON I TOOK HIM BACK WAS BECAUSE HE SAID THAT HE WOULD DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO FIX OUR RELATIONSHIP SO I TOLD HIM WE COULD WORK ON IT, AND IN THE PROCESS EVERYTHING WAS O.K, SO FAR HE TOLD ME HE WASN'T USING (PCP) ANYMORE ETC. HIS APPEARANCE STARTED TO LOOK BETTER SO I KNEW HE WAS TRYING TO GET HIMSELF TOGETHER.

AROUND VALENTINES DAY HIS AUNT CALLED AND SAID THAT THERE WAS SOME MONEY MISSING (1700),AND MY BOYFRIEND WAS THE LAST ONE IN HER HOUSE SO HE HAD TO STEAL IT, SO I LOOKED FOR SIGNS LIKE IF HE BOUGHT ANYTHING NEW, AND HE DID HE HAD 2 PAIR OF NEW SHOES AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE (BUT IN THE BACK OF MY MIND, I SAID HE HAD TO STEAL HER MONEY). ABOUT A WEEK AGO HE SPENT THE NIGHT OVER MY HOUSE, AND THE NEXT MORNING I LEFT, HE STAYED AND LEFT LATER, WHEN I GOT IN MY HOUSE THAT NIGHT MY DVD PLAYER WAS GONE AND MY FOOD IN MY HOUSE WAS GONE, I FELT THAT HE DID IT. (CLUES:I HAVE TIFFANY JEWELRY IN MY DRESSER THAT WAS NOT GONE, ALL OF HIS DVD'S WERE STILL THERE ON THE TABLE,AND MY HOUSE WAS NOT TORN UP,AND THE RENTAL OFFICE DOES NOT HAVE A KEY TO MY PLACE)ALSO I JUST BOUGHT THE DVD SUNDAY AND 2 DAYS LATER IT'S GONE.EVEN THE OFFICER THINKS THAT HE DID IT. I FEEL THAT HE DID IT AND HE'S DENYING IT. THE OFFICER SAID THAT HE MUST STILL HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM. I'M REALLY AM SHOCKED,BECAUSE I CAN'T BELIEVE HE WOULD DO THIS TO ME? IT'S LIKE A DREAM. DO ANYONE HAVE ANY ADVICE OR OPINIONS?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 10:50am

Wake up and break up. Cut this guy out of your life. Dont' listen to a word he says. Find yourself someone better - who you can TRUST completely. You are lucky it was only your DVD player.


Good luck, Go.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 11:36am
You already know the answer to your questions. You know your boyfriend is using and that he steals. The only sensible advice anyone can give you is to stop denying what you know to be true. Tell him he has got to go, and tell him you believe he needs help. If he isn't ready to admit he has a problem, he won't get the help he needs. That's HIS problem. Protect yourself and your belongings from now on. Stop letting him into your house. If you MUST see him, tell him you will only see him at a public place, or his place, or somewhere other than your home.

If you don't take these precautions, you will have no one to blame but yourself the next time he rips you off. He's sick, hon. You're not doing him any favors when you allow him to steal your stuff.

Good luck.