Do you believe in...

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Do you believe in...
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Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:56am
Hi everyone.

I have a weird and yet silly problem. You see, at my job there's this old Cuban man that practices voodoo (not the evil kind though) he says that he has a spirit that tells him things. At first i thought he was full of crXp but yesterday he said that he needed to talk to me. I agreed wondering what he would say. He started telling me things that no one knew. Then he started telling me about my current relationship. he told me that my boyfriend does not really love me. He uses me for money and he's going to end up hurting me really badly and not to trust him at all. and even when i'm with him i feel an emptiness inside, which is what i have been feeling lately. And i'm supposed to meet my true love in a couple of days.

He went on telling me other personal things that i keep deep in me.

Let me tell you a little bit about my partner.

We have been together for three years and we live together. i admit that the flame is fading and sometimes i want to call it quits. There is no passion between us anymore. I feel empty inside because he doesn't like to talk about relationship problems. He keeps everything inside. He has asked me for money in the past but he pays for it little by little. But lately i refuse to lend him any money because i want to test him. at first he got really mad at me and told me that he didnt know that i was like that but then he changed and started to be normal again. The man also told me that my bf only shows me love when he wants some. And last night after i fell asleep he started hugging me and givign me hints but i angrily told him to move and go to to his side of his bed (because of what the old man said). He moved and has not said a word to me yet.

I know he loves me, even if it's in his own way and i love him too. I don't know if you've ever had that "blah" feeling with the person you love.

I'm sorry this message is so long but I dont know if to believe the voodoo guy or not.

Thanks for your comments

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 8:58am
I say to heck with voodoo but listen to your heart.
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 10:35am
The Cuban man practices Santaria. It's a form of black magic. Some people think that there is "bad" magic and "good" magic. The truth is that all magic is bad magic. Any kind of magic is work of the devil. The "spirit" that he's listening to is not a "good" spirit. I would disregard what the man says.

However, if YOU feel that your relationship isn't going anywhere and what part of the man said may be true, then follow your heart and do what you have to to. But don't go breaking up with your boyfriend just because this guy says you should. He brought it to your attention, yes, but only YOU know what's right for you and not some spirit that's floating above this guy's candles and saints.
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Thu, 04-01-2004 - 1:21pm
If i were you, i would be worrying myself. But i do agree with gatorgirl723. I wouldn't listen to him, even if he is right, you don't know that for a fact, and testing him like you have doens't really prove much, it just might make him feel different about you. i totally understand what you're going through. i love my boyfriend also, but i do somethings have that "blah" feeling. some guys just aren't as affectionate, i know my boyfriend isn't, but i'm more of the aggressive one, until he wants something also, but it's not that he's using me (i've spoken to him about it), he just doesn't want to smother me. you say he doesn't really talk about the relationship, well that could be a problem, but nothing that can't be worked on. with the money issue, if i were you, i would want to know what he's doing wiht his money to have to always borrow money from you. but it is all about the way you feel. if you feel in any way that the cuban man was right, before you tried it on your guy, you may be right though. go with your instincts. good luck!
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 10:08am
Magic is neither good or bad... The intent of the person working the magic is what counts. And all Santaria is not used for bad intentions... Blanket statments are never a good thing you know. Oh and all magic is *not* the work of the devil. LOL. Where did you get these ideas???