Men & their space..help!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-01-2004
Men & their space..help!!
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 9:22am
I've read a few other posts on this board, and I figured I'd share my story as well. The bf is 22, I'm 19. We've been together for almost 6 months, but the past two we've been "on a break" so to speak. He says he doesn't know what he wants, and that he doesn't want to be with anyone else, isn't interested in meeting anyone new. He says if he's gonna be in a relationship he wants to be with me. But that he doesn't know if he wants a relationship right now. He wants to keep in touch and stay friends and hang out every so often, though. And I know he's telling the truth about all this because he still calls every couple days, and doesn't go out at all. All he does is go to class, work, and then goes home to sleep. I know he's had a lot of stress going on lately, and I know guys this age sometimes just want to be on their own, which I think is his deal. So my question is, has anyone else gone through this, and how did it turn out? I know I need to focus on myself and just have fun without him, which is what I've been doing. But if a guy said that he loves you, and wants to marry you one day, and that you are the perfect girl for him, and then decides he needs some time off, should I expect this to work out? I know this is a normal thing for guys this age, I guess I was just looking for some comfort from someone who's experienced this as well. Thanks!


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2003
Sun, 04-04-2004 - 10:03am
It doesn't just happen at that age, it happens at all ages. But as you said, you have to go out and live your life. Do not sit there waiting for him to get his act together. Go out and date and have fun. He may come back, he may not. But don't waste time on it... life is too short for that.