I need help

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Registered: 03-29-2004
I need help
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 5:34pm
I am a single mom. I haven't dated for about four years, I just started dating 3 months ago and I think I forgot how the dating rules and I am little confused and hard on myself. But I am trying my best. Could anyone help me with dating rules here please? eg.about phone calls, meeting eachothers friends,when is the right time to meet my kid,..........etc.

Thank you in advance:-)

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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In reply to: carina1368
Fri, 04-02-2004 - 6:14pm

I'm not sure that there are "rules" per se, but I do have guidelines that work for me.

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In reply to: carina1368
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 2:02pm
Thank you for your advice and for taking the time to read my questions and writing me this great information. About the phone call is( Is it ok to call him ask him how was his day or asking him going out for tea or coffee or for a walk?) My situation is, I like him enough and he said he likes me very much, that I am beatiful for him. But my concern is he doesn't ask very much questions. I ask all the time I see him, so if man doesn't ask that is very concerning, isn't it? Every week we going for a date, but I would like him to call me and ask how was my day........Am I very worried not to get hurt again or he is not good. Well this is my situation.

Thank you Again.

Rube.


Edited 4/3/2004 3:33 pm ET ET by carina1368

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In reply to: carina1368
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 3:51pm

Yes, I would be concerned if you are always the one asking him out.

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In reply to: carina1368
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 4:31pm
We have been dating for a 3months now. And he is the one calls me for a date, where when, and what we do for a date.


He only asked me questions the first dates and I mentioned to him why he is not asking and he said I am observing and I know you more than than you think, he said.

As I said we have been dating for a three months and we had 16 dates. And we are very compatble. He is looking in a relationship, marriage and child. That is what I am looking too.

Rube.

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In reply to: carina1368
Sat, 04-03-2004 - 4:41pm

Well, observing is certainly another way to get to know someone.

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In reply to: carina1368
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 12:12am
I am little sad tonight, I don't know what to think I hope you can help me here. I meet this man via internet I never felt safe about it but I tried. He said he likes me very much and he want to continue dating and he is happy with me, but I always had doubt about it how could I trust a man so easily. I did unthinkable thing today just to know if he is really interested in me I signed under different name on this dating web-site........and guess what happened he sent me a smile back and a note. I am in shoke and very sad. He was just with me tonight and he said he trust me very much.

I don't know if he likes me or my body? What am I going to do, could you help me what to do I feel bad what I did, but that is the only way to find out.

Rube.

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In reply to: carina1368
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 12:32am

Do the two of you have an agreement that you are dating exclusively?

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In reply to: carina1368
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 2:00pm
Hi Sheri,

Yes we are exclusive. He assured me I am the only woman he is dating and he wants keep dating. I had to believe him right? My question is how do I believe a man if he tells me exclusive and I don't even know what he is up to? Do you have any advice? and he told me he is been hurt from other woman in his life and he is not going to hurt my feeling and I belived him as a reason we became intimate(had sex). I turned off my profile while we were exchanging via e-mail(before we had first date because of different reason), and after we dated for a 2 months I asked him if everything is going ok between us and he said, great and happy, and I asked him to turn off his profile. And he came to my home to show me he is turning off and he had two profiles (dating, relationship) He just turned off one of them it was my mistake, I gave him wrong instraction how to used.


Well is it ok to ask him to delete our profiles down? And see what happens.





Thank you so much for your help.

Rube

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In reply to: carina1368
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 2:13pm

So, he's lying to you about being exclusive.

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In reply to: carina1368
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 2:35pm
I agree with you Sheri. I did this before and he never return a smile or e-mail. I have been thinking to calm down and wait if he send me an e-mail. What do you think if I tell him what I feel and walk away, I just don't want walk away with out telling him he is a liar? I just I can't ignore it what we had, did together.

Rube.

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