Ex shows up at weird time

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Ex shows up at weird time
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 10:54pm
I had met a guy via the net a few months ago and started dating "officially" in february. We worked through a couple rough things and had been doing fine. he was seeming to rush things and i wasn't wanting that speed...well...couple weeks ago, right before going on vacation he tells me he had even thought about how he want to propose...whoa...wasn't ready for that, and never was a vacation better timed LOL

well as i was packing and getting ready to leave my ex b/f calls out of the blue and we had a great chat..nothing major (broke up 2.5 years ago just for reference) I never told him i was dating anyone and don't feel guity about that and after hanging up i realized that either i still like this guy, i am still scared about that whole proposal thing, or maybe this guy isn't the one....

Went on vacation - left it all back home...when i got back lo and behold, the ex called again - twice in one night...and again...didn't tell him about my b/f

so.....1 should i tell him if he calls again...2 should i tell the current b/f i am talking to him or 3 justforget about this as its just trivial stuff and "move on"

oh and after the break up...we did have a good friendship for quite sometime after a small no contact period

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Fri, 04-02-2004 - 11:41pm

Did the ex ask you out?

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Sat, 04-03-2004 - 6:40am
I think its two seperate issues actually. I think, somewhere in your heart of hearts, you have reservations about the new guy. Personally, at the rate he is rushing things, I'd see a red flag or two myself. So, you need to figure out what you feel for this guy and dont forget...if you see red flags, pay attention to them!

Secondly, the ex calling out of the blue may just be him rekindling an old friendship. Perhaps you arent telling him about new guy because you think new guy might not be around long term?