I need some advice

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Registered: 04-05-2004
I need some advice
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 1:22am
I have really liked a girl called rebecca for about two months now. we have kissed quite a few times, and recently it got a bit more touchy-feely. I really, really like her but i dont quite feel in love. about a month back, she said that she did not want a boyfriend because of the pressures it brings, as she has exams coming up very soon. i respect this deeply, as i was the same wen i was in her position.

she said she wanted to be single as she always seems to have a boyfriend. fine by me.

but one nite i was with her and some of her friends, and she started talking about other people she fancied, right in front of me. i felt horrible but tried not to let it get to me. Two nites ago we wer at a gig, and she was blatently flirting with some guy from her school just beside me.

but he may have been shy, or not interested, im not sure. her friends told another girl(also a friend) to go and kiss him, and they did for quite a while. because of this rebecca was upset and angry with her friends for telling the other girl to do this. i was very surprised at her reaction, and found later she was crying over it.

i didnt know wat to think, but i comforted her and told her she could talk to me about these things, regardless that i like her as much as i do. her friends told me later that she would be the same if i went and kissed someone but i doubt that. i just want to know if i still have a chance with her, and if someone could give me some advice on how to handle the situation. thanks for taking the time to read this.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 10:37am
No, I don't think you have a chance with her, sorry. I think that when she told you she didn't want a boyfriend right now, she was just trying to let you down easy. People do it all the time. What she really meant was that she didn't want *you* to be her boyfriend. She was just trying to be nice about it.

The other possibility is that she doesn't want a relationship with the other guys, just wants to flirt and have fun. In either case, though, I don't think she wants a relationship with you so I think you will do best if you move on and stop hoping for things to work out with her.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 11:45am
a chance for what? You've already got a flirty thing going on with her...she's clearly stated that she doesn't want a boyfriend...her current mode is play the field. If you want to be her exclusive man, sorry.
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Registered: 03-29-2004
Mon, 04-05-2004 - 4:28pm
sound like high school kids ...actually middle schoool