long distance relationships

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Registered: 05-23-2004
long distance relationships
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Sun, 05-23-2004 - 4:42pm
A good friend of mine met a married woman with two children (at a self improvement course)who lives 6,000 miles away. She doesn't want to leave her husband because she will loose the kids. My friend thinks that his long distance telephone realtionship with this woman is the best thing that has ever happened to him. He calls her constantly (which her husband does not appreciate) and it costs him about $1,200 a month in long distance calls.

Comments on: will this relationship last?
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 4:50pm
It may, until his money runs out!

 
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Registered: 05-24-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 12:54am
i doubt it they never worked for me I spoke with a man for months on the phone

but when it finally came down to getting together and meeting he got cold feet.

I think he must had been married or something. I had another long distant relationship phone calls he called me 3 to 6 times daily it to fell through when it was time to finally meet.
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Registered: 05-23-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 10:46am
I do think that he is terrified of commitment. The relationship is stimulating and exciting right now although when her husband found out about it, it must have taken the fun out of it a bit. He was to go and visit her for 10 days when her husband was away but she told him not to come. She rarely calls him as "it is too expensive". He says it makes him sick when he thinks of the money he is waisting but no one can make him understand that what he is doing is self destructive. He says he is obsessed and it is a compulsive thing to call her. In his past relationships he has enjoyed the chase but once he gets the girl it is no fun anymore. Hes 48 years old and has the maturity level of a 13 year old when it comes to relationships. He is seeking psychiatric help to discover why he does the things he does, but doesn't realize that hanging on to a dead end relationship is not helping his through councelling.

Any thoughts on this.....?