Friends with benefits

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Friends with benefits
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Sat, 05-29-2004 - 4:49pm
I met this guy (M) in Jenuary. We are both from from Europe (same country) have same background and that helped us get along so well. At the first we started dating. After a few dates he said that we'd better be friends. I'm not going to deny that it hurt me but I agreed to be friends with him anyway. So we remained friends. Time passed and I met someone else. I dated that guy for about 2 months and then we ended up breaking up. I was very upset and M was very supportive and tried to confort me. After 2 weeks of my misery I went out with M and ended up spending night with him. I swear, I have NO regrets about it. And I forgot to mention, that M always showed he was attracted to me. Anyway, then we slept with each other few more times and it was great! We talk to each other daily, go to lunch together, bars, clubs....But still we were not exclusive. Actually we were not even dating. I was fine with this till now. I told him we should stop seeing each other intimately. He started asking me why and that he thought we had great time....Then he said we sould get back to this conversation later in person....and then simply changed subject. What I expected was that he would just disappear - like guys do - and that would

help me to get over him but we still talking to each other every day, go to lunch and never go back to That subject. I'm so addicted to him and yet I'm not sure what his intentions about me are.
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Registered: 05-29-2004
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 5:28pm
I've been in this situation before. Trust me, get out now! It only gets worse.
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Registered: 09-29-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 5:36pm
How can I get out of it? We have same circle of friends. If he sees me on-line he always says HI and I can't not response:( ..... What should I do? I know, I won't be intimate with him but I know he'll be around and it hurts me.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 6:02pm
Actually, you ARE dating... just not dating regularly...