Please Help Me! I Feel Like I'm Dying
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Please Help Me! I Feel Like I'm Dying
| Sat, 05-29-2004 - 10:19pm |
Here's the situation, ive been the same guy since i was 18. ive been with him for over six years, almost seven. anyways he just told me to break up with him, he says he's not going to break up with me but i have to break up with him. the thing is i really love him to pieces. he's my life. ive never imagined us breaking up but it happened. was i in shock. actually im very newly single for the very first time in my life and i only just broke up with him about two days ago. it really hurts. im still crying and im so sad. so i guess i have to tell u the whole thing. well im in another state and he's in another state so basically its long distance relationship but this is not our first separation, we've survived long distance relationship before, i was in a different country and he was another different country. but this time i asked him to give me an update of he did and saw after he went out with his friends for some reason he said he'll tell me tomorrow and so it was a bit strange for me because usually he tells me straight away. so i thought there was something wrong so i bugged him about it. during this time he was stress about his work cause he needs it to be done soon and then suddenly he got mad at me and accusing me of not trusting him. i was in another place forgoodness sake, i was willing to be separate from him and he tells me that i dont trust him and he asked me for a break. so we had a 2week break and after that he asked me to break up with him. it was so sudden for me but he played the 'if u love me' card u have to break up with me. he couldnt bring himself to tell me what his feelings are about me. he said i care about u. that was another blow in my face. since i did love him i broke up with him and he says that we've got to break up to prevent us hurting each other more. i dont know what to think and he says he wants me to be his best friend. i said i still love him and at the time i thought it was right thing to agree cause i need him in my life because i still love him. i really do. i know he still loves me but he's too angry with me to realise and as guys are built to ignore their emotions, im not sure he will ever admit it. knowing him like i do. but the thing im not satisfied with also is the fact we broke up thru the phone. 6yrs deserves better than that. my friends are telling me he's probably stressed out and he put the blame on me to ease some of the stress. i dont know. he told me to call me on saturday and it was really hard for me. and my friends over there with him tried talking to him about our breakup but he just wont say anything about it. he keeps it inside. he's that kind of person. im hoping he'll realise what he's done. but i still love him. what should i do? he was a part of my life for so long. truthfully i want him back.

Don't give him excuses... He wanted to breakup with you, didn't have the nerve to do it, and asked you to. I know you love him and care for him but try not to let this devastate you.
Quick story: My cousin was with her high school sweetheart for 13 years. 13! Then one day out of the blue, he leaves. She was devastated. Then they got back together. So everyone thought that they would now work things out and get married. Well what happened? He cheated on her. This tore her world apart. She was ready to kill herself because the pain was so great. However, now she's finally getting over it (this was about 3 years back now) and she's moving on.
Morale of the story: Losing someone you've been with for so long really hurts. But don't fall into the trap of going back or trying to make things work because if he leaves once, chances are he'll leave again...
Try to pick yourself up. Lean on your friends. Go out to places that won't remind you of him. Start a new hobby. Help others--it always takes us away from our pain when we try to help others. Do anything that will take your mind off of it. Do anything that will give you a break from the pain.
You will get through this. It takes some time. But you will.
Good luck and keep us posted.