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Registered: 05-24-2004
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Sun, 05-30-2004 - 9:36pm
My x spouse and i have been divorce for 4 yrs. I have remarried he has to. I found he recently is seperated from his wife. heading for divorce. Im totally not happy in my marriage. my x spouse and i were married for 12 yrs and have two children together. he gave our oldest daughter back to me in april siting he couldnt give her supervision she needs her being a teen. Ive been telling him i hope that we could get back together. he is saying not a chance. however he still keeps messaging me etc etc. is he hanging on for just the girls because i have them or is his wheel turning for the possibility of maybe an us again. he is the type of person that can walk away without looking back why isnt he just doing that now. nothing is holding him to continue talking to me. help not sure what is going on. is he affraid to totally walk away sever tyes?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: msparamedictx
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 11:50pm
right now, you should be focusing on your marriage or your divorce, whichever it is. neither one of you is ready to start something new. looking back is a common activity when you split up...but it doesn't mean that you want to go back to that person.

You have adolescent kids...be strong and be a good role model. Bouncing back from man to man isn't healthy for them. Figure yourself out first. You were unhappily married to him, too. Maybe you should be working on creating your own happiness and be less dependent on men to bring you fulfillment?
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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: msparamedictx
Tue, 06-01-2004 - 10:29am
Hello msparamedictx!

 
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Registered: 05-26-2004
In reply to: msparamedictx
Wed, 06-02-2004 - 12:37pm
Think back to your marriage...what were the things that were wrong, dysfunctional, missing from that relationship?
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