My stuff in his place

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Registered: 06-04-2004
My stuff in his place
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Fri, 06-04-2004 - 10:47pm
Whether it is my fault, i am not sure. I dated 8 mths with this guy. He likes to go out with his friends or workmates every friday. I met him only once every 2 weeks.

All i asked is his time once a week for the sake of relationship and he said he can not give 100%. Did i ask for 100%? There was one time, i asked him to help me to come to my place but he hung out with his workmates.. workmates i mean 'hello', workmates over me.

What is wrong with me? Now it is over. Should I hate him? I still have my stuffs in his place, i asked him to send it to me. 2 weeks past i have not got my stuffs back.

What should I do? I want to tell him that he is jerk.. should i do it?

I want to burn all his gifts and send the ashes to him, is it okay?

I want to slap him one time and go, shall i do it?

When i asked him why he puts priority over his friends, his answer is "it's just me. i cant explain either. i dont know myself". I really want to slap him or at least get a bucket of grey water and splash to his face. Shall i do it?

Is it okay for me to burn the bridges?? his birtday comes first than mine, should i send him a birthday card or a birthday card with full of dirty words?

Help me.. Restless.

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Registered: 04-07-2004
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 5:16am
Why can't you just arrange a time to go get your stuff? Men rarely bother to make time to mail something they don't really want to. So just go over and get it. If you don't want to see him or talk to him after that, don't. I do think it sucks when buddies out-rule the girl. I wouldn't waste energy slapping him--he'd probably be expecting it anyway. You could always send him a ball-out letter later, AFTER you get your stuff. As to his b-day, who cares? If you're not friends or anything with him anymore, that is. It's your choice about that.

Good luck

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 10:15am
Fault doesn't matter... all that matters is where things are: You are no longer with the guy but you want your stuff back.

Stop waiting for him to bring it to you. Call him one night, make sure he's home and let him know you're coming to get your stuff. I would really refrain from the cursing or telling him he's an ass or anything else. It serves no purpose. Treat others as you want to be treated!

Hope this helps... good luck!

 

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 06-05-2004 - 10:33am
Hello sinclair!