Is this a fear of commitment
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Is this a fear of commitment
| Sat, 06-05-2004 - 6:43pm |
I had been dating this guy for three months. He was crazy about me. I got to be friends with all his friends and we meet each others family. Then three weeks ago things started to change. He wanted to spend more alone time, or time with the boys. I didn't want to seem overbearing so I let it go. After two weeks of this we finally had a talk. He mentioned that he was afraid about getting into a commitment again (considering his last girlfriend cheated on him and broke his heart). I told him he needed to make a decision and he replied "I think I have" and kissed me. I thought things would get better after that but they only got worse. He started calling less, and not following through with plans. In a last attempt to save the relationship I called him and told him I wanted to talk to him on Friday. He agreed and told me he would call me when he got off work....He never did. Frustrated, I called him Friday night (after he didn't call) and ended things with his answering machine (yes, he then didn't pick up the phone). Now I'm just tring to figure out what went wrong. Do you really think this was the result of a fear of commitment? Any ideas?

He indirectly told you he's out the door. His mind is already made up and decided NOT to move forward with the relationship which is why the result is the way it is. He's not ready. Let him go. If he's meant for you he will come back.