His birthday, any advice would be great

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Registered: 05-15-2004
His birthday, any advice would be great
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 7:16pm
my ex's bd is coming up on the 9th, we have been broken up for almost exactly 4 months. i have seen him few times, because we have mutual freinds, and he called me once saying it was a mistake, blah blah, anyways, we are cool but dont really call each other or anything. i'd like to but im trying to heal.

anyways i was thinking about sending him a text message to wish him a happy bd, my best freind told me to call him, cuz she knows from experince that i should. i really care about bd's and i know he is not all into it, you know what i mean cuz he is a "guy"

so what do u think should i do it, will i regret doing it later, or will i always regret not doing it, if i dont do it, will there be consquences?

anything, and i mean anything would be helpful from you.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 7:57pm
Hello hotred!

 
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Registered: 05-15-2004
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:44pm
im really trying to heal, and i know that i am taking awhile to do it, but oh well, thats what being heartbroken feels like. i really just want to wish him a happy bd, there is nothing behind it, also im not expecting anything from him. and i really want to avoid the conversation with him by calling, although we have talked face to face after the break up but it was becasue we were facing each other cross the table. i really hate the fact that he is gonna think that im thinking about him, or him thinking that i want him back from sending him the message. but i dontknow i'll see what will happen on that day, if'll do it or not.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:55pm
If you do and are comfortable with texting or maybe even sending a card but I would try to avoid voice-to-voice...

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 12:03pm
hotred99...

Why don't you just send him a snail mail birthday card through the mail?

Any conversation over the telephone might be awkward...and since the 2 of you are no longer "an item"---this is a way to remember the b-day, but not put yourself in a difficult spot.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Mon, 06-07-2004 - 4:42pm
I think a snail mail card would be appropriate. Anything more intimate than you would get from an aunt you've seen twice in your life is too much, which is why I would eliminate the phone conversation right off.

Good luck.