Does he like me or not?

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Does he like me or not?
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:02pm
I met this guy at work (he doesnt work there, he was with his dad). He flirted quite frivolous and even to my coworkers they said "he really digs you". Well I gave him my cell # and he called me. We talked for about an hour and I had to go because I was going to a conference then the next day he called again and we again talked for an hour until I had to go to a conference. He told me his dad thought we made a cute couple. I had met his dad before a couple times and he kept telling me I should really meet his son because we both like to travel and that his son and I should arrange to go to europe together since we both were planning to go. The next day I called him from work and chatted with him a few minutes and told him to tell his dad I said hi. He said, "OK I will tell dad the stalker says hi". I got kind of mad at that statement and told him I will let him eat his lunch and talk to him later. He called me the next day wanting to meet up out and asked me where I was. I was out with my girlfriends and he and a friend of his came to where we were. We went to a club. He danced with me and hugged me and held my hands. Everytime I left his side to dance with my girlfriends all these chics would flock onto him. He didnt really talk to any of them. He had a few beers and his friend wanted me to take him home so he could hook up with another girl. I told him whatever but I wanted to leave because I had to work early. I know he didnt want me to take him home so I wanted to leave but he wouldnt let me until they did. We walked to the cars outside and I told him bye and his buddy took him home. I was talking to my friend and she said his friend told her my guy had just gotten out of a relationship recently and didnt want to jump back into one.

Now my question is does this guy have an interest in me at all? And what is the deal if he had just gotten out of a relationship? He didnt tell me any of that.
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 9:31pm
Hello drsexy!

 
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 10:36pm
It sounds to me like he's really confused. I think he likes you but is also uneasy about starting a new relationship and I agree that you should find out how the previous relationship ended. I also think that you shouldn't rush into this because he has recently broken up and has said he doesn't want another relationship so soon right now. I don't see a problem in continuing to talk to him and getting to know him better. Then after a while you can see what kind of a person he is and if you still like him as much as you did. Did you say he was wanting to hook up with another girl when he was at the club? What's that about? That would piss me off and the whole "stalker" thing doesn't make sense unless he was talking about you stalking his dad or something by saying hi. But really it sounds like he likes you but because of his breakup he probably doesn't know what to do right now and this is not a good time for him to start a new relationship.
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:01pm
No other girl he was talking to. He shuned anyone that came up to him quickly. He had lots of girls hit on him though. He stayed near me the whole time and only left my side to go to the bathroom. I dont know for certain if he just ended a relationship. This was according to his buddy who told my friend that was with me. His dad has has been trying to introduce me to him since last december. He held my hand and hugged me from behind and danced with me. Any girl that asked him to dance he said no. He was pretty chilled out. He kept looking into my eyes but never once tried to kiss me.

I will in time find out about the relationship issue and what happened. I am sure his father would volunteer any info to me willingly!

I just dont want to be a rebound girl and I also want to know how to take any relationship I may come upon because that is one area I have no earthly idea about on how to!

So, should I let him call me all the time and not be pushy or ask him out?
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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:36pm
I agree with the others...he's interested in you and he's coming on strong. You seem to be in a huge rush? I get the impression he isn't fast enough for you? What kept you from kissing him at the club?

Most girls are confused because they don't hear from the guy...you hear from him all the time and you're confused? :))

You don't have to call him...he knows you like him...no one stays on the phone for an hour with someone they don't like! Maybe he wants to take things slower and do things right this time with you...maybe he's interested but scared...there are many explanations for his behavior...just be alert to the fact that he's just come out of a relationship...and two...calling someone a stalker...that's a very strong, ugly term...why would he deem that appropriate, cute or funny? You didn't find it funny...I would investigate things more before I let him get closer.

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Sun, 06-06-2004 - 11:52pm
Hello blusaturngurl!

 
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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 3:44pm
I dont know if I am in a rush. I think I am trying to take things slow. I ran into his parents and they invited me over for dinner and introduced me to his sister-in-law and his dad volunteered an awful lot of info. He didnt come over that evening. In fact it's quite strange for me to say but he didn't know I was there and I told his parents not to call him to come over. He has been busy working on this house he bought. His dad also told me that the relationship he had been in has been over for awhile and that he and this girl are just friends. She helps out with the dogs and such. I told his dad I don't want to be in the way. He said not to worry about this girl. But apparently he dated this girl for 4 years and she is american. He said he wanted to marry an asian woman. I was "lecturing" his dad about his diabetes and he joked with me that if I wanted to stay in this family I better keep my mouth shut about his food habits. His parents are really nice.

We continue to talk nearly everyday and then yesterday he called me wanting to know what I was doing and if a few of my girlfriends wanted to come over to his house because he didnt feel like going out since he had been working all day and his friends were sitting around over there. I called him back and told him my girlfriends were going to a pub and I am to meet them there. He said he was tired and wanted to stay at home and that he was sitting in his hottub. Well about 15 minutes later he showed up at this pub I was at. So I am taking this as he likes me but then I see him talk to other chics but I dont know what he says to them. Maybe just casual conversation. Well after the pub closed he invited my girlfriends and I back to his house. Only one of the girls with me decided to come with me. I didnt want to go alone because this is the first time I actually went over after being invited. So we got there and hung out in his rec room watching TV. I laid down on his lap and he put his arm around me. Then he asked me if I was tired I could go upstairs and go to bed because he was going to bed. I followed him up the stairs and then I wasnt sure what to say next so I asked for a blanket and then he found one for me and I went downstairs and layed on the couch. We all woke up and had breakfast. We chitchatted for a while and then my girlfriend finally woke up and we headed out. He told me to have fun at work today. No hug no kiss. We looked at each other before I left. I am so confused! So someone tell me. What is the deal?