New Millennium Romance

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Registered: 06-08-2004
New Millennium Romance
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:28am
Dear Dating Doyenne:

I have a pickle of a question for you. My current boyfriend and I met on one of the spicier online dating sites (we both admitted in our profiles to a great love for sex). We're both divorced, and had few expectations beyond having fun when we first started going out. It's now four months later and it turns out we really like each other -- a lot. But now my guy has taken off on a five-week business trip. Each of us being who we are, we told each other we certainly didn't expect monogamy from the other while we're apart. But we talk via phone and e-mail, and after I had a fling with an old acquaitence last week, I admitted to my guy about it, and said that I felt guilty. He said don't worry, but as we began delving the subject more, he admitted that he hopes when he returns that we'll have a deeper relationship and that at that time, he'd like a commitment of monogamy from me. I'm new to 21st-century dating (I was married for 15 years). But doesn't 5 months seem a bit soon to ask for exclusivity? Or is this my first sign that we might not be right for each other? Or maybe it's just time for me to actually face a tough relationship dilemma directly and try to reach an agreeable compromise. I just don't know.... Got any advice?

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:21pm
I dont think there is an appropriate time frame on when to ask for exclusivity.
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