surprise turned disaster.....advice pls!

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surprise turned disaster.....advice pls!
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:08pm
Alright, so I have posted before on other boards...I am not currently involved.. I was kinda seeing someone but lets not go there...anyways I am still close to my ex, we are bestfriends nothing weird at all....but we used to sleep together after we broke up but sometimes I would just give him oral because I love doing that to him, anyways lastnight we went for a drive and he told me he had a surprise for me, I love surprises I was so curious as to what it was, and finally the time came, he was like are you ready I was like yeah...he starts to undo his pants..my first thought he wants to have sex or something, no he shaved his "balls" for me cuz I used to compliain about the hair...LIKE 6 MONTHS AGO.....I was totally confused....I was kinda hurt because I have no idea what he was thinking....like how does shaving your freaking balls make me happy...?so this was the worse surprise ever...I was thinking like a treat or somethig fun...not this at all...anyways has anyone else had stuff like that happen, and if so explain cuz I am totally lost in my thoughts....

thanks,

jack

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 12:33pm
what a great guy!

shaves his balls for the girl who blows him...

that's quality.

what did you think he was going to do? pull out a ring?

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 1:07pm
I'll try to explain it......

Basically, you've said to him "I like sex and giving you oral" - and there is no strings, obligations, or emotional attachment/involvement on either one of your parts in order for this to continue.

From HIS side of the fence - what you've said is "I like sex and giving/getting oral and so whenever you want to have sex/oral you call me up and we'll get our rocks off together and go our separate ways in every other regard."

I'm not sure...but I'm willing to bet from YOUR side of the fence you WERE NOT saying "I like sex and giving/getting oral and so whenever either of us wanna get our rocks off we'll meet up and there is no future involved, no emotinal attachment in a romantic way to one another at all."

So......you complained that you didn't like the hair on his balls......it left a bad "taste" in your mouth while doing oral. He likes the oral...there is no obligation to him about this - this is just "freebies" whenever you two get together and mutually agree to this indulgence. Like ice cream...only it's oral sex.

He probably read a magazine, or was watching TV.....maybe he's an athlete and this is something that is 'recommended" for his sport for cleanliness........and there was a hottie on there that said "I like the look/feel/taste of shaved balls". HE thought.....okay, other girls are saying the same thing as that ex...that shaved balls are preferred. So, I'll shave them......and he did.

He was simply going to a guaranteed source of pleasure, objective admiration, and honest communication about "his change". HE told you "I did it for you so that you'd like giving oral more" (aka - so that you'd be more willing to do it more often in the same type of format - no obligation, no emotional tie).

You've been doing this all along to some extent, from teh sound of it, not just because you like getting your rocks off giving oral...but because you like being the "object of his attention/affection/approval" when you give oral. But you've also been hoping, expecting, or anticipating that he has more "involvement" here than just no obligation, great oral from you sex on his mind, agenda.

And you've found out he doesn't...he considers is a "surprise" to shave his balls so that you'll do more often what it is you do quite often, with no obligation to him. He probably wanted to get a "removed 3rd party opinion" as to what this shaving did for his appearance......so that when he dates other women, if the majority of women are NOT into shaved balls - he doesn't do this again, or if he "looks funny" for having done it - so that he won't reshave.

Erin

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 1:08pm
No no, I wasn't thinking of a ring but when he said he had surprises before it was candy or something like that....maybe I was just in shock because I wasn't expecting him to shave his balls....I don't blow him that often....but yeah it is kinda funny when you think about it...isn't it?

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 1:15pm
Well, he might think the reason it's not more often is because of the hair.

Erin

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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 1:40pm
hah! you're funny....

i don't know what i would have said...

"ooh, shaved balls for meeee! thanks so much - they'll go great in the kitchen next to the microwave... you're so thoughtful..."

the vision i get in my head is him building up the suspense only to whip out his nuts...

"look ma, no hair anymore!"

hehe - maybe he'll get a nasty case of razor rash ;)

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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 1:25am
hehe now that is funny...if only I had an imagination lol...the part that kills me is did he actually think I was going to jump up and say "oh thanks so much, let me repay you with blow job" yeah actually now that I think about it, that was his way of saying hint hint...but I do it when I want not when he whips em out and says "SURPRISE" hmmm....maybe I will just whip out a tit "surprise"..now start sucking cowboy....lol ok thats enough

thanks alot for you advice, you made me laugh.....:)

and Thanks to you too Erin!!! you rock!

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Wed, 06-09-2004 - 8:55am
Sounds like a great catch!
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 12:49pm
Sounds like he's a smooth operator.....sorry....I couldnt resist.
Lilypie Baby Days

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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 10:28pm
HEHEHEHE I am glad you all think this is FUNNY!!! but I didn't at first but man this is hilarious.....hmmmm.....should I shave next??? come on give me some suggestions lol I will be seeing him tomarrow night..... gotta get revenge....Thats girls

jacki

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 9:26am
I dont mean to laugh at your pain...but if you are having a fwb deal going on (nothing wrong w/that if it works for you) you have to expect that any "surprise" could be related to the removal of pubic hair.
Lilypie Baby Days

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