2yrs and no marraige or kids
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2yrs and no marraige or kids
| Tue, 06-08-2004 - 3:10pm |
Hi I need help. I have been dating this man for two yrs. He is 33 yrs old and I am 25yrs old. We are in love, but are also on a "break". I had told him a few weeks ago that I want to be married and have kids later down the road. I want to live together first, marry, and then the kids. I wanted to make sure he was on the same boat and he told me he can't promise me anything. Am I wasting my time? I am scared that I will wake up at 30 and wonder what happened to my life. I know I am only 25, but I know what I want and do not want to waste either of our time. Please help! Thank you.

You are communicating your goals with him, which is SSSOOOO important! He is letting you know, it seems to me, that he is not seriously thinking along the same lines as you. Neither one of you are right or wrong- you may not want the same things for the future.
If I were you, I'd be really apprehensive towards moving in with him, without an engagement goal in mind. He seems the type who would agree to cohabitate, but not get married. Be careful. You would end unahppy.
If he doesn't have the same goals as you (marriage & family) it is not the end of the world honey! Get out there now while you are young, and find someone who wants what you want.
Keep us posted and I hope you work it out and do what's best for you.