BF STILL IN LOVE W/ EX
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BF STILL IN LOVE W/ EX
| Wed, 08-25-2004 - 8:50am |
I met this great guy last year through some friends. We dated a few times. I ran into him 4 mths ago and we started seeing each other again. We have a good relationship and get along great. I have met his friends and family. We spend 5-6 nights a week together. He tells me and my friends how much he enjoys me being there...looks forward to coming home from work...doesn't want me to stay at my house...etc. I asked him a month after we were seeing each other what was the difference from last year and now...why did he want to keep seeing me? He said last year he wasn't over his ex-girlfriend (whom he hasn't seen or talked to in 2 years, so he says) and wasn't ready for a relationship but he is over her now and now he is ready for a relationship. Also their relationship was dysfunctional...his kids and friends and he has even said how mean she was to people...jealous and controlling...he told me he didn't know what he was coming home to each day she was always a different person, but he loved her. During the last month his ex's girls have started coming by. I noticed he treated me differently when they were around...calling me by my name instead of honey, baby...just little things. I went on vacation and when I came back things were different. I started staying at my house all the time. He finally told me that he is still in love with his ex and when the girls started coming around it brought back old feelings. He says they will never get back together and he still wants to see me, he misses me...and says when I asked him about being over her he shouldn't have said he was. He is a great guy...one of the nicest men I have ever met. I haven't seen him in 2 weeks...we have talked a few times...he says he wants to give me time to think about all this and understands if I don't want to see him. I don't want to hope for something that may never happen, and then I think am I going to be second best?? I am confused and torn apart by this. I am 46 and he is 49 so it is not like we are young and inexperienced. How long does it take someone to get over a past love??

I don't know how you can remain intimately involved with this man, knowing that he is still in love with his ex.
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Jaunerose
This woman will probably always be in his life, since she is the mother of his child, and hence, in your life, too. Are you ready to deal with this long term?