Torn Between Two
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Torn Between Two
| Wed, 08-25-2004 - 9:40am |
Let me put a situation here and get some input on what others would do in it.
A year ago I met a guy "wonderboy" that if I was sure love at first site existed that would be it. I was shy and could never quite tell if he liked me however, and I ended up with another person "clingyguy".
I care about this person, he's a great guy but sometimes I feel like I'm only in the relationship not because I'm attracted to him, but because I feel that he's such a great guy I'd be stupid to give him up.
Yesterday I ran in to "wonderboy" again and got the dinstinct impression he does have some feelings for me. I know its weird but I can't get this guy out of my mind. Sometimes I think if I knew for sure he liked me I would end the relationship with this other guy.
What should I do?

I'm still not even sure its like this guy treats me so nice I feel obligated to stay with him even though I don't know if I'm really attracted to him.
He actually moved in two weeks ago to my place that I have to be out of (we're moving next week) and I'm already about to go nuts. Sometimes it seems he just follows me around from room to room or is always touching me and he doesn't understand why I get mad about it. We were fine when we were long distance but now I'm going crazy around him.
That and everywhere I turn I see "wonderboy" or something that reminds me of him. Do you think its normal to be so enamoured by a guy that you've known for a year and a half but barely talk to? Sometimes I feel like I really need to finally know if he has feelings for me or not, but now that "clingyboy" is in my life I can't or else he'll think I'm totally heinous.
In any event, you should always end one relationship before trying to pursue another. Not to do so is just using the one you're with until you're sure you have someone else to replace him. That's completely unfair to your BF. If you don't want to be with him, and I can understand why you don't, then start making plans to live apart from him. Limited funds or not, you have other options such as answering an ad for a roommate. Don't make excuses to justify doing the wrong thing.
So what happens if you break up with the guy you're with and pursue the other one and he says, "sorry, not interested"?